What do you do when you gather for a fun night with girlfriends and the high energy, effervescent, joy giver of the group, confesses she is not in a good place?
Thursday night, we gathered, just four of us this time. We were ready to connect and share and see what unfolded as the night went on. Often when we gather, it’s dress up of some kind — funny scarves to adorn ourselves — or fun, random music. It always includes good food, laughter and fun.
This night was different though. Our beautiful Clare was not herself. She confessed to having had a really challenging day. This was not like Clare at all.
I went to the first option: a Grey’s Anatomy/Meredith and Christine dance off — we shook it out to ‘Best Song Ever’ by One Direction (which was randomly and appropriately playing at the time). She got her laughter back but needed more.
I shared a new project that we are working on that involved using CCS Cards to connect families. The girls suggested we needed a healing and asked if we could use the cards. Of course I agreed, and immediately got a CCS pack for everyone!
What unfolded was tears from a deep, deep place. Tears and laughter and connection and healing. It never ceases to amaze me just how well this simple tool works, and I felt compelled to write about how this spontaneous CCS moment healed our beautiful Clare.
Here’s what we did:
Because we were ‘healing Clare’, we decided to go through our packs to choose 5 cards that represented, what Clare means to us. We asked Clare to go through her pack and choose 5 cards to describe herself (when she was at her best, not sad Clare).
As always, I was struck by how sharing with the cards immediately evoked deep emotion, tears and laughter. Most of all, we connected in a truly meaningful way.
Clare is so vibrant and energetic and full of life, I thought as I shuffled through the pack that there were a few images that everyone would pick. And as everyone revealed their different choices, I was acutely aware of how curious I became to find out why they chose what they chose and what this meant about Clare for them. I loved hearing the different perspectives, the different experiences, and what I loved most of all, was seeing Clare light up.
As we shared, I could feel the warm gooey feeling (probably the release of oxytocin and endorphins) that comes from seeing meaning and connection. I was experiencing the affect of soaking up the joy of others sharing moments of gratitude for each other. What a gift!
Keep on shuffling!
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